Last week I spoke of characteristics.  Of how others perceive you – as to how and who you should be.  This isn’t entirely the same point, yet goes along with who you choose to be.

Actions speak louder than words.

When you think of this statement, what comes to mind?  For me, its being an example.  I think there’s a strong relevance to the words that you speak and the actions that follow those words.  If you say you’re going to do something, DO IT!

One thing that drives me mad are empty words. So, when I hear someone commit to something that I know is absolutely not going to happen, I (literally) roll my eyes. To me, this confirms one thing.. that their word is useless. We see it over and over, and really, its infuriating.

So many stories come to mind when I think of these words; then I remember this.. that if we all took life with such little effort and thought, where would the world be?  What would we be teaching the younger generations?  What kind of example are we being to those who are watching?

Don’t get me wrong.. following through with what you say isn’t about validation from an outside source.  Not at all.  Its ALL about holding yourself accountable to what you claim.

I think of it this way.. if I told my family I’d be doing this, and instead I chose to do nothing, leaving them wondering why I didn’t do what I promised, what kind of message am I sending?  Again, its all about being accountable for yourself!

The only thing in this world you can absolutely control is yourself.  When you make the conscious decision to place valuable words to a commitment, follow through.

Being a woman in a society of pretty faces and beautiful facades, I know this; I’m not like anyone else.  Hurt my feelings, if you must, but no matter what, be honest with me.  Don’t tell me what you think I want to hear, because I guarantee you have no idea what’s going on in my mind.

I want my life to be full of authenticity, education, wisdom, and very importantly, growth.

Our world has become one of words and no action.  Words to fill a void of another person, yet no action to follow.  Fake, if you will.  Now, I know thats a bold and, possibly unfair statement, yet I call it how I see it.

Having a positive attitude in a broken world is what I strive for.  I don’t expect everyone to be on the same page, yet I do expect this.. honesty.

When I became a mom I was just like every new mom.. clueless.  There wasn’t much that I was confident about, but I was sure about some decisions of how I’d raise my kids.

  •  Teach my kids to ALWAYS treat others how they want to be treated.  ALWAYS.
  • Love everyone no matter what. (hate is not in our vocabulary)
  • Its okay to be weird.. we all are!
  •  If you say you’re going to do something, do it!
  •  The truth is always the best way.

 

I knew I wanted my kids to grow up to be the most amazing citizens they can be.  Sure they have their own personalities and will make their own choices one day, yet I will live my life as an example (not perfect, but accountable).

This post is going to annoy some people.  Its going to cause some eye rolls.  Its going to make you second guess a few things.  GOOD!!  Then that means the words are truth and somewhere inside its grabbed your attention!

I don’t say this to be hurtful, I say this to be honest…  Don’t say anything that you have no intention of following through on.  You’re unknowingly creating a reputation of yourself for your nearest & dearest that they, simply put, can’t trust you.  If you’re okay with that, so be it.  But, in my bold opinion, that’s not okay.

During the time when I felt my worst, I was my own worst enemy.  I went in extremes from telling others what I thought they needed to hear to being so brutally honest that I was crushing to those around me.  There was no in-between.  I had created a version of myself that was unjust, unfair and, frankly, ridiculous.  I didn’t like myself.  When I became more aware of myself and the inner self that is me, I began to realize that not one of the things I was making my reality were actually me.  I didn’t like this person!  She was the epitome of all the things I don’t like in others.  I did that.  And the only way to recover was to live truly, honestly, and purposefully.  I started a new road (as you know), I learned more about myself, my past, my current, and my future than I ever knew.  I knew that a complete renovation of self was necessary to salvage the relationships (and my life!) to move forward. I had to begin living what I preach!

That’s it!  Live what you preach!!  I’ve pinpointed an area of life that makes me crazy, and that I hope others can learn from, yet as you, I can’t control others or how they choose to live.  All I can do is enlighten those around me to (hopefully) choose to live without regret of their own actions.

We have one life.  Why not make it the most glorious, adventurous, memorable one possible.  Live in light, love and positivity.  Be authentic and true to yourself and others.

You got this!!

 

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